What’s Your One Thing?
I am blessed with friends who are strong, courageous, inspiring, intelligent, and wise women. On a recent “girls getaway” with my friend Tricia, a renowned author and intuitive counselor, we engaged in a compelling conversation about “that one thing.”
Let me explain…
It seems we all have one thing that is so coveted that we feel we might cease to exist without it. Perhaps we are impervious to the white knuckle grasp we have on this particular attribute or aspect of our identity. But, it is one thing that remains consistent throughout our life. We subconsciously vow to protect it without compromise.
Examples may be helpful.
My friend Gina comes to mind. Her “one thing” is her commitment to fitness. I have known her 27 years and her weight has fluctuated a total of 5 pounds during that time, including three pregnancies. She is in better shape now than she was in her 20’s. Outside observers might consider her obsessed, but that isn’t the case. Unless she exerts her physical body daily, she feels disconnected and off-kilter. She calls it “staying in her body”. It’s just that simple. As a result, her life incorporates fitness without compromise.
My friend Tricia is committed to her spirituality—it’s her one thing. Her life is devoted to her own personal growth. Through her books, workshops and personal coaching, she has helped thousands of people gain clarity in their life. There is no thing and no one that would tempt her to give up this calling. Her commitment is unwavering.
For my friend Alicia, her one thing is her involvement with the church. She went into crisis recently when that relationship was suddenly challenged. An unexpected threat to her one thing brought out the Mama Bear and my gentle natured friend confidently took a stand against the “evil saboteurs.” Situation resolved.
That’s the thing about our one thing. When threatened, we’ll go to extreme protective measures because we know the very essence of our identity is at stake. Our one thing has us find courage, strength to overcome threats and challenges. In the process, we grow.
Whether we realize it or not, we organize our life around our one thing. At the same time, it can be very elusive. When Tricia asked me about my one thing, I was stumped. I said “my freedom?” and she laughed. “You are not free,” she said. “Your life is filled with the burden of compromise.” It wasn’t exactly the answer I was expecting but with much love and great finesse, she lead me to the answer—my creativity. Looking back even into the dark corners of my childhood, I realized that no matter how my life has evolved, no matter what challenges I faced, I have found ways to express my creativity. This blog is a perfect example–it is an outlet for creativity.
Why should you care about your one thing? When you understand the essence of you, the roots of your choices and the impact on your relationships become clear. With clarity, you are one step closer to creating a life filled with intention, joy, freedom, love and purpose. And that, my wise and wonderful readers, is a beautiful thing.
What’s your one thing?